— Ticky Sowdenham (via a-subjective-truth)
f is for friends who do stuff without you
u is for uninvited
c is for clinging onto hope that you wont keep getting forgotten
k is for krispy kreme yum
this is not what i wanted this post to turn out like
one time i got in the shower and came out and no one was home and the lights were off, my entire family went bowling and forgot about me
DOWN HERE IN THE DEEP BLUE SEA
Here’s what you should avoid so you don’t feel led on by your love interest:
- Letting feelings blind you: if your love interest tells you the first time that they aren’t interested in anything more than friendship, please believe them. Do not pass go; do not collect $200.
- Assumptions: don’t just assume feelings are mutual solely because of what your love interest is doing, even after he/she has explicitly told you of their lack of interest. Also, keep in mind that just as people often don’t mean what they say, sometimes they don’t even mean what they do.
- Expecting more: Don’t expect more than what your love interest is willing to give. If that person hasn’t agreed to be your boyfriend or girlfriend at any time, then they aren’t going out with you. Therefore, you should not expect to be treated like a significant other. Also, don’t expect anyone to refuse your gifts merely because of disinterest, especially if given with an ulterior motive. If you expect more, then you are solely responsible for your emotional hurt when your love interest has snipped off the strings.
- Not meaning what you say: If you aren’t okay with staying friends with someone you’re interested in after they reject your proposal, you’re not obligated to talk or hang out with the person after that. You don’t have to stay friends. You can always choose to discontinue and go your way. Please don’t say you’re fine with being just friends when you aren’t. Then, you’d be the deceitful one, wouldn’t you? The situation can only get more uncomfortable for everyone.
So many people who have been accused of leading others on or being deceitful often say that it was unintentional, but I believe the focus should be more on the accusers who do these four things when pursuing a love interest.
When in love with someone, it’s okay to jump heart-first, but one should make sure the brain and conscience are not too far behind.