infjdoodles:

I’ve been working more and being tired lately. When that happens I often reflexively do things, without thinking about whether or not they’re what I actually want. I am usually quite self-aware but, when I find myself low energy and exhausted…I have to stop and reevaluate.

infjdoodles:

I’ve been working more and being tired lately. When that happens I often reflexively do things, without thinking about whether or not they’re what I actually want. I am usually quite self-aware but, when I find myself low energy and exhausted…I have to stop and reevaluate.

infjdoodles:

I like my people. You become “mine” once we’ve established a baseline of emotional honesty. I reveal myself to people slowly over time. My default state in internal, not external so I never feel like I’m holding myself back. It takes more energy to full engage with my environment, which I enjoy doing.

infjdoodles:

I like my people. You become “mine” once we’ve established a baseline of emotional honesty. I reveal myself to people slowly over time. My default state in internal, not external so I never feel like I’m holding myself back. It takes more energy to full engage with my environment, which I enjoy doing.

infjdoodles:

I’m often bad at volunteering emotional information about myself. But, I’ve gotten better over time. I find friendships deeper and more meaningful connections occur when you’re willing to throw yourself out there faster. 

infjdoodles:

I’m often bad at volunteering emotional information about myself. But, I’ve gotten better over time. I find friendships deeper and more meaningful connections occur when you’re willing to throw yourself out there faster. 

a-subjective-truth:

Transparency is a scary thing for most people. When you’re open and real, you put yourself at risk for ridicule, rejection, and having your heart broken. You risk your reputation. These are only a few simple things being risked, but they mean everything. Therefore, people are inclined to be…

"I don’t mean to idealize unrequited love. It can be painful (obviously). But that pain wouldn’t be there without the love. And I’m not saying it’s wrong to want to find someone who loves you back. That’s great, if you can find it. But not everyone finds intense, mutually-shared love with another person. You can say, “You’ll find someone when you’re not looking,” or “there’s someone out there for everyone,” but face it—the world is too big and chaotic to abide by such simple rules. Some people do spend their lives alone."

— Ticky Sowdenham (via a-subjective-truth)

(via a-subjective-truth)

infjdoodles:

Self-awareness under ending goes deeper and deeper. Self-awareness includes: untangling what you’re projecting onto other people and determining what the changeables vs. unchangeables.

infjdoodles:

Self-awareness under ending goes deeper and deeper. Self-awareness includes: untangling what you’re projecting onto other people and determining what the changeables vs. unchangeables.

leeyounger:

When it comes to dating and marriage, I think most folks imagine this fairy-tale world where you magically find the exact right person, fall head-over-heels for them just like in the movies and then have the kind of wedding that would wind up on everyone’s pinterest boards.

It’s not like that…

antoinew:

shadicasper:

#BreakingStereotypes

🙌🙌🙌🙌

(via not-by-sight)

footmeetsface:

spoon-party-of-bombur:

multipack:

amyeatfeast:

stopthatitssilly:

alexkisu:

multipack:

f is for friends who do stuff without you

u is for uninvited

c is for clinging onto hope that you wont keep getting forgotten

k is for krispy kreme yum

this is not what i wanted this post to turn out like

one time i got in the shower and came out and no one was home and the lights were off, my entire family went bowling and forgot about me 

DOWN HERE IN THE DEEP BLUE SEA

(Source: ihaveremade, via a-restless-wind)

Leading People On

Here’s what you should avoid so you don’t feel led on by your love interest:

  • Letting feelings blind you: if your love interest tells you the first time that they aren’t interested in anything more than friendship, please believe them. Do not pass go; do not collect $200.
  • Assumptions: don’t just assume feelings are mutual solely because of what your love interest is doing, even after he/she has explicitly told you of their lack of interest. Also, keep in mind that just as people often don’t mean what they say, sometimes they don’t even mean what they do.
  • Expecting more: Don’t expect more than what your love interest is willing to give. If that person hasn’t agreed to be your boyfriend or girlfriend at any time, then they aren’t going out with you. Therefore, you should not expect to be treated like a significant other. Also, don’t expect anyone to refuse your gifts merely because of disinterest, especially if given with an ulterior motive. If you expect more, then you are solely responsible for your emotional hurt when your love interest has snipped off the strings.
  • Not meaning what you say: If you aren’t okay with staying friends with someone you’re interested in after they reject your proposal, you’re not obligated to talk or hang out with the person after that. You don’t have to stay friends. You can always choose to discontinue and go your way. Please don’t say you’re fine with being just friends when you aren’t. Then, you’d be the deceitful one, wouldn’t you? The situation can only get more uncomfortable for everyone. 

So many people who have been accused of leading others on or being deceitful often say that it was unintentional, but I believe the focus should be more on the accusers who do these four things when pursuing a love interest.

When in love with someone, it’s okay to jump heart-first, but one should make sure the brain and conscience are not too far behind.